Book - Away from the Pack

Men must detach themselves from men. They must refuse to remain any longer active accomplices of this destructive male solidarity, which encourages in-groups, saturates public space and protects the most harmful individuals.They must leave the pack and its codes. They must once and for all get rid of the collective pressure that pushes them to behave like predators and petty bosses.They must say no to hazing, to entrance exams, to masculinity tests. They must move forward on their own, learn to think for themselves and not in terms of the group, and behave like dignified and respectful human beings. They must stop hiding behind a dyed-in-the-wool fatalism that would make it impossible to stop ordinary sexism, daily discrimination and the impunity of aggressors. To behave like a man, like a man worthy of the name, is to stop playing at who has the biggest and to say definitively no to these indecent signs of connivance with mediocre types, euphoric to be who they are when they should sincerely be ashamed of it.Journalist and teacher, THOMAS MESSIAS explores the way in which groups of male friends form and develop on retrograde conceptions of female-male relationships, the relationship to virility, couple life, humor, etc. ;how they fuel the patriarchy by profiting every day from their domination, allying themselves with beings as dominant as themselves to be more fulfilled, more carefree and more powerful than ever. He demonstrates, mercilessly, why it is crucial to succeed in redefining the principles and objectives of male friendship, with the only way out being the need to dynamite these groups from within, or to leave them altogether if it seems impossible to make them evolve positively.